‘a man against his father,
a daughter against her mother,
a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law—
36 a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’
This verse seems to tie in with our discoveries about narcissism.
To me, this verse may have taken 2000 years to fully be understood.
I often thought of a favourite hymn I was taught at school, in the midst of my journey through narcissistic abuse.
Were You There?
Source: Aled SoP https://www.youtube.com/user/AledSoP
I just discoverd this tune on You Tube.
The Narc always wanted attention and spends his life fighting for it. I have spent much of my life trying to avoid it.
Don’t Hate Me-Jingle Punks
Source:Audio Library https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHae4C99XJORB7Iog62wqvw
Blood is thicker than water.
One very painful lesson I learned, is that reaching out to the narc’s family, made matters worse. I firmly believe that there is a genetic element to narcissism, so they are more likely to be part of the problem, than the solution.
When I thought my MIL might sympathise, as it was an issue I knew she had experienced herself, I had reached out to her. It was one of the most horrific experiences of my life. It had ended with me finally accepting that the narc, (difficult as he was) was possibly less of a problem than his mother. We(The narc and I) had actually enjoyed relative peace for a while, as I had begun to understand, the disturbed environment in which he had been raised.
One advantage I have had, over many narcissistic abuse victims dealing with in-laws is, I had seen how they had treated a former brother-in-law. To my shame, I have since realised how close I had sailed to becoming a fully-fledged flying monkey myself. I am pleased to say their behaviour towards him (which had included a graphic smear campaign) did eventually backfire. Throughout my experience I have remembered the phrase from the bible about all that which is hidden, being one day revealed. It might not happen according to our timetable, but I have found there is great truth and comfort in this.
For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open.