Spartan Life Coach uttered one phrase during his videos which has become a bit of a personal mantra, since I have become more fully aware of narcissists and how they operate.
Please forgive the profanity however in this instance I believe it is entirely appropriate.
Don’you f@#$g dare.
I wholly subscribe to this view now. If I am pushed these days, my inner mongoose appears.
Lions V Mongoose
Source: Barcroft TV
You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by falling over.
Through dealing with toxic people I have learned that seeking peace is ironically often a fight. Watching Bobby Kennedy give his speech I recognised he was actually engaged in a battle. The weapons were truth, humility and courage. My ways of presenting my truth are generally unconventional. Now my youngsters are older I am gradually learning from them more and more of my mistakes. My sense of humour for example is probably not always funny. (Sorry family no spiders don’t only bite you if you are up to mischief. Also I note here I am the only one who has been bitten by a spider and unfortunately there had been no mischief involved. )
As a bit of an aside, I have a beef with a certain fast food chain who decided to give away these motion-sensing toys one year. This had helped make one Christmas Eve particularly challenging. Santa had had to make two trips. The first one had been to remove the sensors, designed to catch him in the act.
When I was taught to teach we were encouraged not to give answers. This is very much part of my make up. I just present questions and try to speak my truth. People who have all the answers get up my nose more than just about anybody. If I ever slip into doing this I apologise. What I do best is to make mistakes. As I tell my youngsters I may get lost all the time but I have been lost more places than most people have ever been. I remember being taught in teacher training how viewing a page full of mistakes from a student can be much more informative than examining a page full of right answers.
History is littered with pages of our past mistakes. Perhaps it is time to examine them closely, understand our thinking and at least try not to continue making the same ones.
Speeches are important. Churchill’s stirring words helped Britain get through some of the darkest days in its history.
One only has to hear Martin Luther King’s “I have a dream.“, to evoke a powerful moment in time.
Sometimes the best words are spoken with courage, after a terrible tragedy such as
Rosie Batty’s words after her young son had been publicly murdered, by her former partner..
In a totally different context, today the most powerful words once again came from a grieving mother.
I don’t want her death to be a focus for more hatred. I want her death to be a rallying cry for justice and equality and fairness and compassion. I’m very sorry that [Fields] chose that path because he has now ruined his life as well as robbed a great many of us of someone we love very much.
What makes a great leader or a true stateman? I think just about everybody would agree that somewhere in the mix, there must be courage. A willingness to face the slings and arrows, in order to chart a course they truly believe in. A willingness to pay a great professional and/or personal price to do the right thing. Truly great leaders often demonstrate great humility. One comment from Nelson Mandela stuck in my mind when he was in conversation with Oprah. She had asked him what had caused him to renounce violence as a way to achieve his political ends. He said something like
“Twenty seven years(in gaol) is a long time to think.”
It takes a humble man or woman to admit their past mistakes and to learn from them.It also takes great integrity. One of the qualities which demonstrates a great leader to me, is genuine humility- an ability to admit past mistakes and to demonstrate they have learned from them. Great leaders also have the courage to do what is right, regardless of the effects on their own personal popularity. Great leaders walk with those they lead, suffer with them and sacrifice for them.
I am reminded also of the example set by King George VI and his wife, the then Queen Elizabeth, when they chose to stay in London during The Blitz and to suffer with their people, rather than relocate to somewhere safer.
Above is very patriotic original footage of the royal family, during The Blitz.
I applaud politicians and leaders of true courage(past, present and future), ready to stand up for what they believe, regardless of the personal and professional cost. Too often motives are about personal gain and success, instead of values like personal sacrifice, justice and just plain doing the right thing.
Simon Sinek on leadweship