My own difficulties have helped me develop resilience too!
I remember a mother saying she had 5(?) children once and that she didn’t have time to make his sandwiches. So I had suggested she teach him to make his own sandwiches. I spent considerable time teaching these skills to our children,
However sometimes you can lead a camel to water but you cannot make it drink!
This reminds me of my marriage, He certainly “had the hump” a lot!