I have learned it is often not the scary- looking macho men who commit abuse. More frequently iit is the weedy-looking little dweebs.
The one who attacked his wife while we were at bible study was also a weedy-looking little dweeb.
Rowan Baxter was physically imposing and successful, It is probably just as wrong to try to profile abusers as it is to attempt to profile their victims. I have met abused women from wealthy backgrounds too. I live in an affluent area and I believe 80 percent plus of their call-outs are for domestic violence.
I maintain that many abusers are Cluster Bs.
Attitudes I met from police officers and society as a whole have often been dismissive.
Forgive me not talking about male victims of domestic violence but most of the time these days I am not able to handle really being alone with a man, let alone defend them. Too often I have come up against “The Boy’s Club”. Mr Concrete is but one of many examples.
In conclusion I recommend that profiles of typical abusers and their victims are probably best avoided, however well-intentioned they might be. The only thing I suspect all abusers have in common is that they are expert manipulators. The words, “He is a good bloke,” send cold shivers down my spine these days,
As for victims well we have an unfortunately tendency to give too many people “the benefit of the doubt.”
Conclusion 2: DON’T MESS WITH STRANGE LITTLE GIRLS. THEY MIGHT BE AN INFJ.
Strange Little Girl – Sad Cafe