If we are a parent, we can anticipate our youngsters turning against us at some point, even in normal, healthy relationships but quadruple the potential problems if toxic people are involved. I take comfort in the fact that they feel safe turning against us, as it is not safe turning against a narcissistic parent. They will be punished out of all proportion. I have seen my son be desperate because his father was giving him the cold shoulder.
I believe it is normal and even healthy them to think “F##k both of you!’ for a while! and reject everything we have attempted to teach them.
I allowed myself to get to caught up in trying to protect them even when they were more than old enough to protect themselves.
As the”in” parent, the boot will soon be on the other foot however. We can let the toxic parent try to do the hard stuff for a change and attempt, if the children are adults, to have a well-earned break.
The toxic parent will quite likely get bored, being as their whole goal is to try and destroy you anyway.
As my grandparents tried to teach me,
“He who fights and runs away, lives to fight another day.”
In the meantime all we can do is pray for our children.
Additionally I am in the position now finally to be able to say,
I Don’t Give A Rat’s Arse. You overplayed your hand.