I am a big fan of Nilma ( the lady with the baseball bat.)
Co-parenting With A Narcissist
I do feel that co-parenting with a narcissist can feel like you need a baseball bat on occasions. I had to be absolutely rock solid and dependable to provide stability in the children’s lives. This is totally exhausting. Mine tried to train them to ignore the word, “No!” He would say “No” to the silliest of things and then deliberately cave. This teaches the children that they don’t have to listen to people’s nos.
Source: You Tube Movies
I taught them both about gaslighting too. I wasn’t completely successful there. To this day we have a stand-off about Star Wars the Clone Wars as they had tried to gaslight me over it.
I realise several comedy shows actually make light of gaslighting. I don’t find it funny. GASLIGHTING is worse than being hit. I have watched videos which suggest it causes brain trauma similar to an actual head injury. I was told about the brain fog it causes. I know I felt like I was in a daze for ages. Gaslighters are the worst. I do not think people take this issue anything like seriously enough. It annoys me when people minimise the effects of gaslighting. You can be made to feel like a zombie. If you try to talk about it they will only try to drive you even more insane. I recommend getting everything in writing. I would just message his own words straight back to him. I read back through some of the gaslighting. Even that is enough to trigger me. The incidents of gaslighting on reality tv really upset me. Personally I think gaslighters should be booted off the show after a single warning.
These shows would not allow physical violence. In my view gaslighting is WORSE.
These days I almost feel sorry for Elmer Fudd and Yosemite Sam. Narcissists always look so innocent if you challenge their gaslighting.
The bible has a lot to say about liars. Just Google it for yourself.