Do you know what’s more annoying than actual narcissists in my view? Smug, “enlightened” former victims. You know the kind. They have seen the error of their ways and are now all knowing, all forgiving , models of inner peace. I had one of those days today, where I felt like I was the only one who was not wandering around with a benign, loving smile on my face.
I know I had stuff I needed to learn but in my view that does not mean I am ready to look lovingly at the abusive people in my life. They were a#@holes yesterday and for many years prior. They are still a#@holes and I will likely consider them a#@holes for the foreseeable future.
Aaron James on his theory of a$#@holes
Realising that they have had a purpose in my life does not make them any less of an a&%hole.
“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by a$#@holes.