When we are attacked generally our instinct is to want to defend ourselves. For me the quickest way to shut things down was to
Own my narrative.
I know when the narcissist in my life used to call me nuts, owning it worked best for me.
Yes I am nuts. If I weren’t I would have left you long ago.
This just left him with nowhere to go- I can’t even remember the last time he tried to call me crazy,
Other relatives of his upset my youngsters by referring to my family of origin as weird. I settled them down by laughing and saying:-
If they’re normal, I ‘m glad we are weird.