Much has been learned about the attraction between narcissist and empath. Perhaps I am alone in this but I know there were times when I felt at peace being next to somebody, who had mostly appeared to be an emotional blank book. Looking back he had felt like a bit of a buffer- a space where I was not swamped by everybody’s emotions, including his.
I could handle this lack of emotion and even took some comfort in it at times, however too often the price I paid was abuse. When the two of us were quietly working away at individual tasks, I had often felt settled and somewhat content. I am having to learn to be my own buffer now and create my own safe space away from the maelstrom of everybody else’s emotions.