I was aware of the fan club and on the whole, found the concept vaguely amusing. It is one thing to be stuck in a marriage or other serious relationship with a toxic abuser, it is quite different to fall for the pity ploys they use,(this includes therapists and other professionals who should know better) and become a flying monkey. I realise we all make mistakes but let’s learn from the experience and ensure we are never used as unwitting flying monkeys* again.
Am I the only one who believes a man who consistently runs his significant other down to another woman, is automatically an a**hole. I had always assumed that this was female legend, handed down through the generations- Female 101. It seems a few missed the memo or perhaps I did.(I realise the same dynamic applies to those dealing with female narcissists.)
Narcissists do, what narcissists do but they could not do much of what they do, without their bevy of adoring little “helpers”-the continuous supply of unrelenting admiration.
I realise we all make mistakes but let’s learn from the experience and ensure we are never used as unwitting flying monkeys again..
Perhaps the best defence against narcissistic abuse is a little solidarity. It is one thing to allow a close friend to let off steam when their partner has upset them, it is quite another to listen unquestioningly to a narcissist’s continuous smear campaign and to let yourself be drawn into the sick dynamic.
Mostly I believe men know better than to run down their partners to me. We should all perhaps be wary of those who seem willing to try to manipulate our view of their intimate partner.
This post was inspired by reading the article below which describes the narcissists online-game-playing fan club(feeding egos is not always a good thing.)
*Flying monkeys-A good article on flying monkeys can be found here:
Note: Please ignore the gender labels, abuse, as I am learning, is not about gender..